attention server friends: Oprah never said that it was ok to tip 10% in this economy. Stop joining that FB group. And stop asking me to join. I can't stand the cult of Oprah, and yet I know this is a lie.

Listen, it's hard to make a living depending on tips. I get it. I do it. And I know how frustrating it can be to give your all, and to be stiffed in return. I know the economy sucks, and how hard it can be to pay your bills.

But waiting tables is like gambling. Every now and again, we hit the jackpot in a big way, and it's all worthwhile. But for the most part, we're all just staying afloat. There are so many other things that we, as servers, can get up in arms about. Let's pick something real, and go from there.